My first Christmas!!!

Well Christmas was great!  What a blessed day it was.  Although I can't say all the hooplah was there that I had always expected.  But no doubt, I was not disappointed with our first family Christmas.  In fact, thanks to my beloved husband, it couldn't have started out any better.  He woke me up with a hot cup of Peet's coffee, sweetened just the way I like it.  When I came downstairs he already had the fire going and all the Christmas lights on.  It really brought me back to my own childhood memories of Christmas.  Which I must say only added to this day with my own daughter.  We had a few precious moments alone, sipping our coffee in front of the warm fire, before Miss Emery awoke.

And then there were three.....

Miss Em woke up, we fed her and then it was present time!!!  She did pretty well with ripping the paper.  But was honestly bored after the third present.  I bought her clothes and wrapped them in 5 or 6 boxes.  But lesson learned, that will go over better next year! lol  We also bought her a little toy and a big toy.  She loved them both!  Even Maddie got to open her two presents right along with Emery.  It was a family first! :)  Then Sean made breakfast... we ate... and then we all passed out!  Emery for 3 hours and Sean and I for 2 hours.  hehe   It was great!  The afternoon was spent making foods for dinner with the McCarley family (my side).... artichoke dip, sweet potato balls (a yearly demand), and a scrumptious apple crisp that even my cuisine-loving brother complimented (that was all I needed from him for Christmas!... yes even at 38 years old, I still crave my brother's approval).  The evening was spent with my brother and his family (my 3 nephews and niece) and my sister-in-loves parents.  It was a great time spent with family.  

I had so much to be thankful for this Christmas season.  The gift of God's Son and his love for us, all the more evident as I looked into my daughters beautiful blue eyes.  I could have received no greater gift that day. 

 Emery's first tree ornament!

 Just woke up!

 Opening presents with Maddie!

 Presents by the fire :)

 ahhhh.... a few moments alone while the family naps....

Opening her gift with Auntie Nae Nae 

 following in my mommy's footsteps... 

I am now on my 7th day of vacation and have enjoyed it much!  I work this weekend and off all next week as well.  Its been wonderful spending so much time at home.  Yesterday a couple friends came over including, of course, Emery's twin beau-friends!  We had a great time hanging out, sharing baby stories, encouraging and praying together.  I love my friends!  I am so blessed! 

 playdate with the Taylor boys! (looks like Toys R' Us!)

jumping into the middle of them!  you can see who rules here! lol ;)

Last night I had a magnificent idea... to take advantage of Sean being home today and me going out on a ME-date!  So I did!  This morning I left, book in hand, and headed to Starbucks (dang! I just thought of how I should've gone to Piazza del Pane for Peet's!  It definitely would have been more quiet. Next time!).  I'm in the middle of this intense book and looked forward to enjoying one of my favorite pre-baby past times..... sipping a soy latte while reading a great book at the coffee shop!  Except for the crowded shop and all the talking going on around me, it was a great, relaxing time.  (thanks babe!)

Well, I guess that's all for now.... here's a list of what Emery is doing in a nutshell (sorry... I started out the post with this and got side tracked! lol)

* clapping her hands (also when you say "yeah!") * banging toys together 

* pulling up and standing by herself when I'm not looking * standing without 

support for a few seconds * finger foods ... chicken, avocado, pasta, potatoes, 

turkey, crackers, LOVES cheese * lots of new sounds (seems to be new ones 

everyday) * kisses * waving hello and goodbye (she'll wave goodbye as we go 

up the stairs even when no one is in the room) * really interacts with her train

 toy (more than even a month ago) * signs "all done" when finished eating (first sign!) 

* crawls everywhere! * doesn't care that the tile is freezing, but crawls on it anyway 

* loves playing with other babies * likes to share * 

Emery's Dedication!!!!! 12/11/11

Now, enough of that honest, transparency, self-reflective stuff!  Let's get back to Emery and the fun stuff!!!  ;)   (although I'm so relieved to have had dealt with all of this before this wonderful Sunday came!)

This past Sunday we had the honor of dedicating our precious, beautiful, miracle baby, Emery Rose, back to the Lord.  It was an amazing day.  I was so nervous that morning, as if I was going to be performing on stage.  I mean, gosh, People's church is a BIG church!  I would have never dreamed we would be dedicating Emery there.  But in May, we started attending and really enjoy it.  We feel that we are where we are supposed to be!  But that didn't come quickly.

We were actually scheduled to dedicate Emery in October.  But when the time came, Sean voiced that he didn't feel comfortable doing it at Peoples by a pastor we don't know, in front of people we don't know.  You see, we were at Valley Christian Center for over 20 years, and we want to dedicate her there, where everyone knows us and loves us, and has walked through this journey of infertility, and then miracle healing, with us.  But that scenario isn't there anymore.  It made it difficult to feel excited about dedicating Emery there, where we know no one, and they don't know us and Emery's story.  But God likes to take care of all those details.  So a month ago, or so, Pastor Dale, People's head pastor, looked our way before service one morning and said hello.  I boldly waved for him to come talk to us.  When he came to us, I stood up and bluntly told him that we wanted to dedicate Emery and shared how we were feeling.  Interesting thing is, that Sean had been helping him at REI and seeing him at Starbucks the week before.  So he offered to meet with us at Starbucks as we got closer to the day of her dedication.   Last week we met with him and had a wonderful time getting to know him, and he, us, and sharing Emery's story.  Sean continued to see him over the past month, which I really feel was God's way of taking care of Sean's heart (as he was more concerned with having a connection with the pastor that would dedicate his daughter).  God took care of all of it!  Dale did a fantastic job!  And I can only pray that our story touched someone who is in need of a miracle.  (which I was introduced to a girl after church who is going through infertility.  We are going to connect after the holidays!  Thank you Lord!)

The entire morning was awesome!!!  We had over 30 family and friends come for the dedication.  We got there early and saved 3 rows and filled them up!!  It was wonderful having them all around us as we worshipped, heard the Word, and of course, dedicated our daughter.  As soon as he began sharing, I had to fight back the tears with everything in me. But as soon as he began praying, I lost it!!!  I was sobbing.  The reality of this day was and is overwhelming to me.  We have waited so long.  11 years.... but really 17!!  It really felt like the peak of this journey for me.  The final "see, Amy, I did it for you! - God"  moment!  lol  Like the entire last 12 years was summed up in a few minutes and then a prayer.  And even though I only knew a handful of those 1000-some people that day at church, I felt at home.  God is an awesome God!  He takes care of the big things in our lives.... but I think He LOVES taking care of the details that wow us!

For those who don't know what dedication is.... it is not a decision or proclamation of salvation over Emery.  Although, we believe as Christians, that young children, until they are old enough to know and understand the gospel and make a meaningful decision for themselves, would go to heaven if they passed as such an early age.  However, dedication does not mean salvation.  It is simply, mom and dad, dedicating their child back to the Lord.  We believe He has blessed us with the honor of raising up this gift He has given us.  But we know that she belongs to Him.  So we, as parents, commit ourselves to raise her up in the ways of the Lord, teaching her of God's loving sacrifice in Jesus Christ, His Son.  She still will need to make that decision for herself as she gets older.  But it is our responsibility to teach her and instill in her God's purpose and plan for her life (which only He knows).

 "the dress"!!  (after the 2 owned ones didn't fit, I bought 3 more, to finally settle on this one!  Loved it!)

Here with our godsons and their parents, Brent and Lisa, before service

Pastor Dale praying over us and Emery after sharing our story

The following pictures, I took off the video from People's website... Love going to a high tech church!!  lol

 The Noble Fam!

After church, a dozen of us, or so, went to Panera for lunch.  Luckily it was another beautiful California day and we were able to sit outside and enjoy the sunshine.  It was a nice time of fellowship.  

 Emery with her beau-friends, Evan and Ryan, at Panera

 She crashed out!!!!!  I didn't even change her diaper or her clothes.  Poor thing was exhausted!

I can't begin to say enough how much it meant to us that our family and friends were there with us. And many more in heart, as well, who couldn't make it.  We feel so loved and we love that Emery's story continues to touch people.  It was a blessed day!!!

You can always watch the video at Peopleschurch.org.   Click on "messages", then video archive and find  "The Gospel According to Christmas (PC2)"  12/11/11  ... not Encounter (that's 3rd service... we won't be there :)   Fast forward to about 37:30.  Enjoy!

Coming to the end of myself.....

 I wanted to add this to the blog post at the end so that it would all make sense. And for my own journaling purposes, that I would have it all in one place.  I'm sure many of you have felt this way too.  I can only hope maybe the Lord can use it to encourage you as well.

So here is the excerpt straight from my journal on Thanksgiving day.  .... in its rawest form.... 

11/24/11

As hard as it is.... today I realized one thing.  I have no idea what I'm doing.  Its been building.  I should've seen it coming.  But I didn't.  And today it slammed me in the face.  Twice, Emery fell over and hit her head while sitting only a foot away from me.  The first time, Sean said nothing.  But the second time, it was no holds barred.  And I don't blame him.  I stood there rocking her in my arms until she stopped crying.  I finally took her outside.  He eventually followed and at first, "started in on me".  But then I began to really listen and he began to talk with me, not at me.  I sat there silent, but my mind was reeling.  I kept thinking "what in the world is wrong with me?".  No matter how much I do try to protect her and think ahead, its still not enough.  Why am I so selfish with my time and space and.... whatever.  Why is she not my number one?  She is, in my heart, but for some reason I don't feel like she is, in reality... in a practical sense.  It makes me feel like I truly have no business being a mom.  As I began to realize my incapabilities, the negative voice came in.  Once I voiced it to Sean, I continued to sit there in silence.  And slowly, the fog began to lift.  And this is what I realized.....

After all these years, even from my teen years, I've prided myself in having what it takes to be a mom.  All I wanted was to be a mom.  I have what it takes. How hard could it be?  I prided myself in being a good babysitter.  And in my adult years, a great auntie.  And the latest.... in being a pediatric nurse of 12 years for goodness sake!!!!  And I knew, it was my fear for years now, that Sean would be better than me.  Although that was not the fear at the forefront of my mind.  But it was sugar coated by a fear that he would "act" like he knew more than me and push his weight around telling me how to do things and instructing and correcting me.  But the fact is..... he does know more than me.  He's geared for this more than I am, simply I believe, because he practically raised his baby brother.  I never did.  Being a woman doesn't make you naturally a good mom.  Babysitting is far different than being a parent.  And I've slowly realized over the past 9 months (only to come to admit it today) that being a peds nurse if faaaaar different from actually caring for a baby day in and day out.  All I do for them is assess them, treat their infections and pain, and maybe change a few diapers.  Sure, I have full capability and experience to save their lives if the need arose.  However, that doesn't help me one bit when it comes to caring for and raising my own little Emery.  Its a harsh reality.  But I truly have no idea what I am doing.  Flags should have been raised a couple years ago when I would babysit my niece and have no idea what to feed her.  I stress every single day on trying to figure out how to nourish Emery.  It is harsh.... It is reality.  And it is time to change.  

I confessed this, first, to Emery.  I apologized for being negligent.  Through tears I confessed all of the above but I promised that I'm going to change.  I am going to lay down my pride in order to learn from Sean, heed his advice, and be as diligent as I possibly can to protect her.... as Sean says, to think 3 steps ahead.  Its just so hard to honestly admit this.  I want to believe I am a good mom and that I am a natural mom.  It is painful, actually. I can't stop crying.  

Confession.... apology.... a promise.   Its the first of many.  Now I just have to find the courage to give it to Sean as well.

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11/26/11

I talked to Sean the same night this all happened.  I knew if I didn't then the chance would be lost and it would probably never happen and the power of this change would cease.  It needed to happen before we went off to sleep.  But it took me until we got into bed.  I shared all of the above with him.  I even touched on the fact that I've been struggling so much with him making me feel less than a good mom.... that if I were not his wife, he wouldn't trust me to babysit his daughter.  But I said I never felt like I was supposed to talk to him about it and now I know why.  Although he made me feel that way, I realize now that I was already feeling bad and insecure because of the things I let happen on my watch.  Putting computer and texting ahead of my own daughter.  I realize I was already feeling guilty about that so when he would come down on me, it made me feel even worse.  But it was right to do so.  I realize that now.  It really was coming to a "you better shape up or..." moment for him.  Neither one of us could understand why I couldn't get it.  He was so relieved that I told him all this.  Yet at the same time, he can trust my words only so far, but he needs to see the change.  I have no doubt that I can and will do that because it HAS to change.  This little girl is learning how to walk and balance and she has no idea what she is doing.  She has no idea the consequences.  I do.  There will come times when she will have to learn lessons on her own.  But I realize now is not that time.  She has no idea and I have to help her and be there for her to protect her.  

It was such a huge relief.  And I see things so differently now.  My mindsest is changed and I have no issue being more on top of things and protecting her.  I also am opening myself up to receive and RESPECT Sean's advice and the fact that he knows a lot about this.  More than I in some areas.  He confessed He knows more in some areas just as I know more than him in others.  We are a team.  I want to be a team.  Its no longer about me.  

I am so relieved and grateful the Lord allowed all of this to come to the surface.  I had no idea how twisted my thinking was.  Thank you Jesus!!!!

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Now, on to today.... 12/6/11

I've been going through so much this past month.  Struggling to no end in my mind.  With insecurities beyond measure!  Thanksgiving day was my coming to Jesus moment.  The moment when I realized I don't know what the heck I'm doing.  I literally broke down emotionally. It did not start out to be a great day.  Its very hard on a woman's pride to realize her husband is better at this parenting thing than she is.    But that was the first piece to the puzzle.  

Last week at bible study, I finally, out of desperation, asked for prayer.  Wasn't even sure if I would know what to tell them to pray for.  But I knew I needed a break through.  Katie said it... Emery is changing fast and therefore my life is changing and I'm not ready yet nor quick enough to keep up.  Parenting was so easy when she was just laying there and taking a bottle every 3 hours.  But now she is moving (more each day) and changing her routine on me and starting to eat foods (of which I'm lost.... but trying to figure it out.... I will proclaim truth in that I have the ability to figure it out!)  I was so looking forward to this time when she is learning so much and becoming a little toddler.  But now I find myself in a fog, and out of control and insecure with my abilities.  I feel I'm juggling so much.  And I know this is not a new concept to the general population.  People do it everyday.  But I'm having a harder time than I thought I ever would.  Then there's the guilt.... I've waited so long for her and I guess I thought it would all come naturally and I would welcome each and every change, good or bad.  But reality is that it is just hard.  Parenting is hard.  No one can really prepare you for that.  And I think the more I can grasp that, the more I will be able to deal with it.  Now, it seems I can hardly get anything done when she's awake.  Where before I prided myself in being able to still do all I needed to.  So I either get stuff done but feel I'm neglecting her, or I spend time with her but neglect my home.

Yesterday at work I felt I was being spiritually attacked.  That the sharing and prayer I received last week didn't get very far.  I was having crazy thoughts that I should just walk away from it all.  (of course I would NEVER do that).  But still the thoughts tormented me.  I finally sent a text to the girls who were there last week and asked for prayer once again.  I believe they did pray because soon after that the tormenting stopped!  Praise God!  Thank you Lord for your faithfulness.

Third piece I realized last night..... I decided I would go to bootcamp after work.  I realized that the last 2 months that I have not been able to go, I believe, has added to these feelings.  At least, before, I was taking care of her, but also taking care of me.  Even if it was a simple 2 hours of workout each week.  After the workout last night, I felt so clear in my mind, energized and felt like a different woman.

Things will continue to change.  But I don't want to miss one minute with her.  I took her on a walk to the market today and was thinking how wonderful the Lord is in my life. If he revealed all this to me at once, it would be too much to process.  But he has slowly revealed one thing at a time.  I knows us better than we know ourselves.  I'm sure there is still more.  So I will keep myself open.  On a good note, today was a great day with my baby girl!!!  :)

Emery's modeling debut!

So I get to officially, finally, share my pics from Emery's first modeling shoot.  The business... Little Bow Dazzle.  The photographer.... ME!!!  :)  And special thanks to Amy Horn for the help and assistance!   I came across this gal on facebook.  She was looking for a model Emery's age.  So I emailed her.  And Emery was hired!  I hope we can do more in the future!  It was fun!  Enjoy!

Adventures!

Well last week I had so much to say... but unfortunately never had, or made, the time to blog. Makes me sad. But here I am.  Maybe I can still do the last 10 days justice.
Well to say the least, Emery is changing changing changing!!!!  Did I say she is changing??  Sheesh!  I can't believe how quickly things are moving... including her!  Although she is not crawling yet, she is most definitely making her way around.  We will move the ottoman into the center of our (U-shaped) couch and then sit on either end and let her play in the middle.  She will roll and scoot back and forth between us, pulling herself up and over us.  Its so much fun!!  But even though I think I'm discovering the moon here, all you alum parents already know that now the craziness has started!!  She requires a lot more to stimulate her.  She is not content for as long in her exersaucer.  And the days of eating with her in my lap are history (although this one was going away a while ago).  Taking her out is still pretty easy, but naps have almost ceased in the car.  And if she does fall asleep it is short lived.  And naps.... she has cut one out officially!  Which is good and bad.... before she took 3-4 45 min naps. Now she takes 2-3 naps that are 1-2 hours.  Anyway... just another adjustment.
And then there's the thing you can't escape when they start moving... bumps and bruises!  She got her first one last wed at my friends house.  She fell (from sitting, thank goodness) onto her forehead onto their wood floor.  It wasn't too bad but she had a bruise for almost a week.  Then when you're in public, you feel like everyone thinks you abused your child.  Its awful!  Glad its out of the way.  She survived.  So did we.  But that is exactly why Sean, and now I, am so worried about her crawling on our tile floor.  (right now, since I have my back turned, I have her on a blanket on the floor completely surrounded by pillows! lol)
She continues adding to her 'sounds'.  She's got dada, mama, baba, and lala down!  Along with blowing bubbles and sniffing in and out while pooching her lips (its the cutest thing! does it all the time!!)
So much is happening!  Its not just adjusting to each new day with a baby and being parents and being "Married" parents... its all the projects Sean has going on in the house, its our jobs and thinking constantly about our future and where God is leading us.  It is constantly taking all these things before the throne and trusting them to God.  It is all a faith walk.  But it is exciting.  It is an adventure... our adventure!  :)

Just a few pics from the past week.....

 I took Emery for a walk and ended up at Grandma Dorene's.  It was a great time!

 Emery's first Halloween!

 She LOVED the candy!!  (no she didn't eat any!)

Sleepy princess!

p.s.  How could I forget??!!!!   Emery gave me her kisses today for the first time!!!!  And she did it over and over and over.  I must have got 15 from her.  I started crying on the first one and the rest were filled with laughter.  The glimmer in her eye and the huge smile on her face the entire time made me think that she knew exactly how happy she was making me at that moment!!  Priceless!  Thank you Jesus for such a truly blessed gift that could only come from you!

Pumpkin Patch!!!!

For anyone not on facebook..... here are some pics from yesterday's trip to the pumpkin patch!  So fun!!!  She is such a great and easy subject to shoot! :)

Old friends.... New joy!

Had a beautiful time yesterday with a friend that goes way back!  Dixie Brewer became a kind of spiritual mom to me many years ago, early in my marriage.  I was part of her women's bible study group on marriage and later worked with her at the church.  But over the years, grew in relationship with her.  Well she and her husband moved to Coeur d'Alene about 4 years ago.  I haven't seen her since then.  But she has been on my mind for the past year in that I just HAD to tell her about our Miracle, Emery.  I've recently become friends with her daughter-in-law, Ally, who told me they were coming to visit.  So yesterday, I drove to Caruthers and spent half the day with these two beautiful women.  It was a wonderful time of catching up, sharing the good stuff and the bad, and praising God together for the tremendous things God is doing in our lives.  I could sense the pride and love she has for me and for Emery.  I only wish she was still living her to be a part of our lives.  But I love her so much and feel so blessed to have had the time with her yesterday.  So thank you, Ally, for letting me come invade your home for the day.  What a blessing!

... and Ally's kids jumped in too!

Here are some random pics of Emery just hanging around the house....

First time hanging out on the tile... she didn't mind it!

Look at that face!

LOVE IT!! 

these were my own baby clothes I found!!!

And some fun video for your viewing pleasure!!!

she cracks me up!!!!  (you'd think she was Italian! lol)